Anatomy Of A Loser – 50 Reasons You’re NOT a Winner
by Jim Fannin
A loser…
- Complains about conditions, circumstances and situations
- Whines to anyone that will listen
- Puts other people down in order to build himself or herself up
- Seldom (if ever) accepts responsibility for their actions
- Pivots away from criticism and usually strikes back
- Prepares poorly because of over-confidence
- Evaluates his or her poor performance with emotion and blame
- Acts like a victim when things don’t go their way
- Embellishes the truth even for no apparent reason
- Often outright lies for personal gain
- Acts selfish
- Has an inflated view of themselves
- Has their ego run their mouth
- Very seldom has compassion for the less fortunate
- Always expects to get his or her way.
- Pre-frames performances with psychological safety nets as in “I won’t have a chance with the officiating in that ballpark.”
- Readily showcases anger or outrage when they are criticized
- Tries to get other people to defend their ways
- Surrounds themselves with “yes” people that always agree with them
- Doesn’t learn from past mistakes
- Takes unfair advantage of other people
- Has language that is boisterous and self-serving
- Carries a “holier than though” attitude
- Looks down on lesser people in stature, economic status, or social standing
- Forces their physical presence on others
- Loves to hear the good about themselves
- Judges strangers immediately upon meeting
- Counts his or her money obsessively
- Takes advantage of the opposite sex
- Categorically labels groups of people other than himself or herself
- Uses shock value to get attention
- Has marital or relationship challenges
- Overtly demanding of subordinates without seeing or feeling how they feel
- Can hold a grudge
- Flip flops on previous opinions to fit the situation, condition or circumstance
- Uses foul and or vulgar language to “shock and awe” and showcase power
- Wields sarcasm to protect fragile ego
- Seldom asks great questions because they already know the answers
- Has a short attention
- Expects to be waited upon
- Tries too hard in pressure situations
- Seldom makes non-emotional adjustments during a performance
- Gets off the subject in a conversation to confuse others and deflect further attention away from the subject at hand
- Procrastinates because they know they will pull it off
- Intimidates and frightens “significant others” with comments such as “No one leaves a relationship with me…”
- Reacts violently if “significant other” tries to end the personal relationship and gives the impression all friends and family are in serious danger
- Constantly showcases his or her accolades, accomplishments and honors
- Takes action at the wrong time
- Offers excuses when things don’t go his or her way
- Oversteps their authority in most situations