by Jim Fannin

A loser…

1. Complains about conditions, circumstances and situations
2. Whines to anyone that will listen
3. Puts other people down in order to build himself or herself up
4. Seldom (if ever) accepts responsibility for their actions
5. Pivots away from criticism and usually strikes back
6. Prepares poorly because of over-confidence
7. Evaluates his or her poor performance with emotion and blame
8. Acts like a victim when things don’t go their way
9. Embellishes the truth even for no apparent reason
10. Often outright lies for personal gain
11. Acts selfish
12. Has an inflated view of themselves
13. Has their ego run their mouth
14. Very seldom has compassion for the less fortunate
15. Always expects to get his or her way.
16. Pre-frames performances with psychological safety nets as in “I won’t have a chance with the officiating in that ballpark.”
17. Readily showcases anger or outrage when they are criticized
18. Tries to get other people to defend their ways
19. Surrounds themselves with “yes” people that always agree with them
20. Doesn’t learn from past mistakes
21. Takes unfair advantage of other people
22. Has language that is boisterous and self-serving
23. Carries a “holier than though” attitude
24. Looks down on lesser people in stature, economic status, or social standing
25. Forces their physical presence on others
26. Loves to hear the good about themselves
27. Judges strangers immediately upon meeting
28. Counts his or her money obsessively
29. Takes advantage of the opposite sex
30. Categorically labels groups of people other than himself or herself
31. Uses shock value to get attention
32. Has marital or relationship challenges
33. Overtly demanding of subordinates without seeing or feeling how they feel
34. Can hold a grudge
35. Flip flops on previous opinions to fit the situation, condition or circumstance
36. Uses foul and or vulgar language to “shock and awe” and showcase power
37. Wields sarcasm to protect fragile ego
38. Seldom asks great questions because they already know the answers
39. Has a short attention
40. Expects to be waited upon
41. Tries too hard in pressure situations
42. Seldom makes non-emotional adjustments during a performance
43. Gets off the subject in a conversation to confuse others and deflect further attention away from the subject at hand
44. Procrastinates because they know they will pull it off
45. Intimidates and frightens “significant others” with comments such as “No one leaves a relationship with me…”
46. Reacts violently if “significant other” tries to end the personal relationship and gives the impression all friends and family are in serious danger
47. Constantly showcases his or her accolades, accomplishments and honors
48. Takes action at the wrong time
49. Offers excuses when things don’t go his or her way
50. Oversteps their authority in most situations