There are 365 days and 8,760 hours in 2013. That's enough time to accomplish a lot in your life. You could learn a foreign language, get physically fit or start a new business or career. What portion of this time will you waste? What percentage will you have avoidable drama? What proportion will be negative? None is the answer I envision for you. See a year of simplicity, balance and abundance as you look through the windshield onto the road of 2013.
We all have good intentions this time of year. I'd like to lose 30 pounds... I'd like to get back into a size 4 dress... I'd like to increase my sales... I'd like to be nicer to my family... I'd like to eliminate worry... I'd like to play tennis again...
Across the world this list goes on and on and on every year at about this time. New Year's resolutions made... New Year's resolutions failed. Here's how you can make them stick.
- Out with the old... In with the new. It's time to bury 2012. Take down your holiday decorations. Get rid of everything that is unwanted (you're on your own with relationships). It's time to start fresh. It's time to wipe your slate clean. It's time to prune the tree. Change your "worn-out" expressions that you sprinkled in all your conversations in 2012. If you are still using, "Bazinga"... bag it. Get rid of "Winning!" Toss "Nuff said." And if "Yada,Yada, Yada is etched in your permanent vocabulary then "Seriously" you need a mental makeover. "Really." Forget how you used to managed your money in 2012. Clean your closets. Give your "fat clothes" to Goodwill. It may be time to get a new broker, banker, accountant, dentist, physician, attorney or psychic. It may be time to re-invent you. You may need a life coach.
- Be realistic. Make a list of things that are possible. Limit your resolutions. It's better to change one big thing than five little ones. However, it's okay to reach for goals that are a stretch. For example, as a 14-handicap golfer, becoming a scratch golfer within the next 12 months is more than a stretch. This is especially true if you have a full time job, a spouse, and three children at home. It's more realistic to reduce your handicap to a 9, although, many of my Golf in the Zone™ School students have reduced their handicap by 8-10 strokes. This is a resolution that could be possible if it's planned out in detail. Remember...your resolutions cannot be about something that you physically or technically cannot do. It's highly unlikely you'll win the Masters this year. Sorry.
- See and say what you want...NOT what you don't want. Avoid statements like "I don't want to swear any more." Instead, say, "I have clean speech" or "I'm cuss word free." "I am going to lose weight" is not a resolution. Act as if you have already accomplished your feat Say what you want in finished state. "I am fit at 140 pounds with 10% body fat." That is a resolution easier to keep. See this in your mind and say it as if it is so. This is exactly how a champion thinks. You can't become 140 pounds in a body that sees itself as 180 pounds.
- Make your resolutions measurable. I want to be happy... I want to lose weight... I want to get healthy. These are all nice thoughts but they are only wishful thinking. A resolution must have teeth. A positive resolution that is measurable is something like "Weigh 122 pounds by 3/1/13." or Play tennis competitively in a league by 6/1/13." or "Be vice president of my company by 12/31/15."
- See it and say it as if it's so. Work backwards. Millions of Americans will attempt to reach their resolutions by going from A to B. However, champions first mentally see B. Then they illuminate a pathway from B chronologically back to A. The champion then proceeds to literally move from A to B on a well-defined course of action. Now if you get off track you can easily find your way. Walk on your well-lit pathway from A to B as if it's so... as if you've already accomplished the goal. This is the B to A Principle™.
- Place a deadline. In order to make mental, physical and technical routine changes in your life, a deadline is mandatory. This deadline of accomplishment will create stress. This stress is good (eustress) as long as it is created by you and for your benefit. Make your deadlines 12 months, 6 months, 3 months, or 1 month. Again make them realistic and make them definite.
- Break it down. If you have an annual goal, break it down into months, weeks and days. Create an action plan and be aware of the tactics and strategies on a daily basis. Now change can be facilitated. Again make sure each part has a realistic deadline.
- Remain positive. Think about what you think about. Negative self talk regarding your resolution will always end in failure. Avoid putting yourself down, talking about the past, comparing yourself to others or judging yourself. In fact, completely eliminate the word "problem" from your vocabulary and replace it with the word "challenge." Now you'll be inspired and invigorated when confronted with an obstacle.
- Daily dress rehearsal. Mentally dress rehearse the night before the next day. See what you will accomplish regarding your resolution. This day is 1/90th of your quarterly goal or 1/365th of your annual goal. I personally lost 68 pounds by visualizing exactly what I would eat the next day and exactly when and what I would do for exercise. I performed this dress rehearsal in a relaxed physical and mental state every night before I went to sleep. When asked about dress rehearsal I always answer, "I've never had a day I haven't already had."
- Repetition... Repetition... Repetition. Your positive resolutions will work when your thoughts are consistent See your accomplishment within 30-minutes before sleep and within 30-minutes after you awake in the morning. Framing your day by seeing it as if it is so will create the repetition and persistence needed to accomplish great resolutions. Writing your resolution on your bathroom mirror might help you frame your day. Try it.
The above 10-step formula has worked for hundreds of professional athletes and thousands of successful business people around the world. Be mindful that you are making these resolutions for your best friend... YOU. Treat yourself like a champion and the resolutions will become routine.
Now that you are armed with this 10-step program, remember...Good fortune favors the bold! Be bold with what you want and have a Happy New Year!
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